The 5 Love Languages

I remember the "talk" Chad & I had with the pastor who married us, Bro. Bobby Fischer, and the thing I remember most is him saying that most people think marriage should be 50/50, but for a marriage to really work it should be 100/100! Both the husband and the wife should always give 100%. I had never really thought of that until he mentioned that to us, and Chad & I both agreed to this powerful statement. I also remember Bro. Bobby talking about the importance of finding out each other's love language, as he gave us brief descriptions of the 5 love languages outlined in Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages. I've seen the book during all of my trips to Lifeway, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million...etc, but I never bought a copy. ...After listening to K-Love, once again, I was inspired to finally make this purchase! Why did it take me over 4 years to buy it?!?!? I don't know! After being married for a few years, you realize men and women are different, you and your husband might not love in the same way, but you should embrace these differences and do all that you can to not only share your love with your spouse but love them beyond all the limitations that face you in your daily life! Chad & I have an AWESOME marriage and I am extremely blessed to share each day with the one that God made for me! I am super excited about reading my new book and finding out more on Chad & I's love language!

My Love Language Scores:
8 Quality Time
7 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch
5 Receiving Gifts
4 Words of Affirmation

My Primary Love Language: Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there–with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby–makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

My Secondary Love Language: Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Chad's Love Language Scores:
10 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
8 Words of Affirmation
4 Acts of Service
0 Receiving Gifts

Chad's Primary Love Language: Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face–they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Chad's Secondary Love Language: Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there–with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby–makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Take the test here, it's only 30 questions and so worth the 10-15 minutes!

...When I asked Chad to take the "test" this morning he gave me a lecture on how this is for people who are having marriage problems; ha! I told him that this book is not for those who are experiencing issues in their marriage but for those who always wish to make their marriage better no matter how good it already is! He agreed to take the test, like the good husband that he is and he said that he first wanted to know what the love languages are so he could "guess mine"...AND HE DID!!!!! He knew without a doubt that my love language is quality time, and that made me feel good knowing that he knew that without seeing my scores! He asked what I thought his was and I was 100% correct too! Physical touch without a doubt is Chad's love language! I feel comforted knowing that we didn't need this test to figure out each other's love language...we do know each other very well, but as I told Chad, I'm excited to read the book to learn more and improve my "wifely skills".

HAPPY READING!